There is no denying that the ability to give or withhold information about the father or to the father is, essentially, in the woman's hands, whether she terminates, places, or parents.
But it's not so much my intention to rail against the imbalance of power that biology, in part, creates as much as it to really explore given all the different variables, which fundamental right trumps the other --the father's right to know and right to consent, versus the woman's right to choose for her child or control the information as it may potentially impact her child.
I can see strong arguments both ways. I can see hurt on both ends.
I'm hoping that some first moms who've dealt with this in different ways might be willing to share and that adoptive families would also share how they have handled the issue.
At this point, since I can mostly see it from the father's side based on my life, I'm hoping that I can get some input and gain some understanding from the other sides affected by the issue.
I know I've seen first moms resolute in their decision to withhold information, and I've seen first moms also regret their decision to do so. I'm hoping some will share.
And, I'd love to hear from more adoptive families who've dealt with the issue, about how they handled it, what they think.
Thanks for sharing.
