[MamaS]

There was a rerun on Dr Phil yesterday (7-25) focussing on a young man who DID know about the baby, DID want to marry the birthmother or supporther and the baby or have custody of the baby and DID have a family support system who would have helped him raise the baby. Unfortunately, he DID NOT KNOW about his state's putative father registry -- AND HIS LAWYER DID NOT KNOW EITHER! So, the birthmom and her parents gave the baby for adoption to family friends. They can see the baby grow up (they see her several times a month) but he can't even meet the adoptive parents or get photo updates or anything.
The state of Florida passed a law that said any birthmother giving up a baby for adoption who stated that the father was "unknown" had to advertise in the paper for her previous sex partners to give then a chance to come forward and be DNA tested. Of course, the law was struck down immediately because it invaded the "privacy" of the mother.
So, a girl can get pregnant and decide w/o father's consent to terminate or continue the pregnancy. If she terminates, he can't stop it. If she continues, she can: A - Keep the baby. identify the father and request child support.
B - Keep the baby, request no support and not identify the father.
C - Make an adoption plan for the baby and declare father "unknown".
BUT - IF LATER SHE AND THE FATHER GET BACK TOGETHER, she can tell him about the baby and he can file to have adoption overturned if he lives in a state without a putative registry.
Does seem like this is one situation where the woman has more power, doesn't it?