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Originally Posted by BrockBaby

Thanks Tomster...I agree that part of this is probably just the way she is as a person. But there seems to be such an underlying anger towards me. It's almost like she doesn't approve of who I am because I'm not like how she would have raised me. She says things to that effect all the time... And I want to say, "Can't you be happy that I work, go to church, am a nice person, and live a good, clean life?!?!

You have perfect insight into her problem. She CAN'T be happy. Your success shows up her failure as a mother. Your happiness highlights her misery. That makes YOU responsible for her failure and misery, so she attacks you verbally.

Originally Posted by BrockBaby

Sometimes I really do want to just walk away.. but then I don't want to be labeled one of THOSE adoptees.....I think part of the problem with me, is that I was spoiled here by being around so many "ideal" bmoms....

There is no law that says "once reunited you are bound to your birthfamily forever". If anything, you can be an example of when it is reasonable for an adopted child to obtain the medical/family background info they wanted, assure the bio-parent that you are healthy, happy, and bear her no hatred for the adoption, and they distance yourself from their dysfunction and live a healthy and happy life with people of your own choosing.