[thanksgivingmom]

Brockster - I hate to think that you're doing anything for any other reason that it being what you want. You shouldn't do anything you don't want to do...I know it's not that simple but you can't live in fear of the label of one of "those" adoptees.

If it's not all that it's her personality and some of it has to do with your adoption, well that is NOT your wound to heal. She may very well be grieving (possibly for the first time) the person you may have been had she parented you. I know it can be hard for that to make sense because the only thing you have to compare to isn't what YOU would want for your life anyway, but no matter WHAT your life would have been I think it's something that birthmoms do grieve. You shouldn't be punished as a part of her grieving process and it's not your responsibility to accept it.

More ((((((hugs!))))))