I have dealt with both and the abortion left me with a hollow empty feeling. It was final for me and of course the baby. The adoption left me a empty hollow feeling as well. It was different though. It is hard for birthmoms because at times you just want to touch them or hear their laugh or something as simple as picking out their outfit for the day. But he has a wonderful beautiful mom who I love. The abortion left me with all negative feelings especially with family. I grieve for both. But with the adoption I still get to see him smile and hold on to the fact that one day I will get to touch him again. I can't have that hope with the other. Like you I hope I don't ever know the answer.
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