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I can speak both as a single mom, and as the child of divorced parents.
As a child, my parents' dating was REALLY hard on me. They would bring somebody home and ask us, the kids, to accept that person as part of our family life. The boyfriend or the girlfriend would be around all the time. We'd get attached. But then one day, BAMMO, the boyfriend was gone or the girlfriend took off, and we never saw them again.
It was an endless cycle of loss. I still wonder what happened to some of those people. Some of them, the ones that were around for a couple years, I loved a lot as a child. Then they vanished.
I'm a single mom by choice---I'm not divorced, I adopted as a single. I was dating somebody pretty seriously when my son came. When that relationship ended just before Aaron's first birthday, I decided that he'd already lost too many parents to go through this over and over like I did. So now, I am very selective. I do not date very often. If I do, we go out and away from Aaron for the first whole bunch of dates. Only if it gets really really serious will I ever introduce somebody I'm dating to Aaron.....and right now, I don't think that's ever going to happen.
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