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DO NOT work with any agency that gives you the runaround. If your agency is not straight-forward and responsive to your needs and questions, then you are not their first consideration and there may be more going on behind the scenes than you know - or may want to know. DH and I took 2 years to find the agency that suited our needs and both our adoptions went very well. The agency - however - is no longer in business. The right agency for you will be able to find the child you want to bring into your family. Girls always take longer than boys because there are so many requests for girls, but that doesn't mean girls aren't available and it doesn't mean if you want a girl the wait has to be endless. We chose Russia because we wanted a permanent adoption. The U.S. courts have gotten into the habit of legislating from the bench so much that you don't know from one court to the next what the 'law' is going to be. I didn't want to get involved with any of that. (To all: No flames, please. It's a personal opinion and nothing anyone says will change my mind on that point.) We completed our most recent adoption in 04 before all the accreditation issues, so I'm sure some of the more recent APs could PM you with agency suggestions that might better suit your needs. If you are financially committed to the point you cannot get out, it helps to arm yourself with research and demand action. These people have been employed by you to provide a service. They aren't doing you a favor. You are paying them handsomely. You need to be persistent and keep a sense of humor. In the end, when you are home with your son or daughter, all the 'stuff' that irritated and/or scared you in the process will start to fall away and all you will see is your beautiful family. Good luck and God's blessings along the way.
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