I am so sorry you are going through this
My heart really goes out to you. It is such a hard decision for an emom to make and I certainly would not want to be in her shoes. I can see how part of you would want to scream with anger and the other (more reasonable) part of you just feels sad for this poor emom and her tough decisions. You just have to have faith that if it's meant to be, it'll be. (Hard to remember, I know)
Hang in there and remember that everyone here is available for your support.
Keep us updated & let us know how it all turns out.