[akcskye]

My kids were adopted older, and from foster care.

They were 9 and 10 and are now 11 and 12.

They look SO much like me and blended in with the family so well, we don't even consider adoption half the time anymore.

My mom has told me many a time (not in front of the kids, obviously) that it was like I had the kids on layaway until it was time that I could be ready to be a mom...that's how much they are like me!

They have NO problem blending in with the biological family and are THRILLED to be meeting their new cousins (my great nephews) who came all the way from Alaska on Monday.

The kids are getting along great and love my niece and my nephew in law...so for us...yeah, it's SURE easy to forget adoption...and unless they need to talk about their birth family, I find it a dis-service to keep bringing it up, because I don't want them to feel like "the outside" kids.

I've included a picture I took on my cell that I love...my 4 favorite kids in the whole world!

My 2 holding my 2 great nephews...the little one on the left on my daughter's shoulders is 1 year 4 months, and the little one on my son's shoulders is almost 4.

I just wanted to provide this picture, because you can see in the eyes, all 4 look related...and my niece and I both have the same eyes and cheeks just like the little guys.

Originally Posted by powderpiggy

DS is 10 months old; we are and will always be very open with him about his adoption and hope our relationship with DS's birthmom and birthfamily will continue to thrive and grow.

Last week my mom was visiting and she said to me "DS has the same facial expressions as G (G is my FIL). Now G lives on the other side of the country and DS met G only once when he was 8 weeks old. So playing along I say "well DS has not been around G enough to pick up on his facial expressions so maybe he is picking up from DH's".
My mom responds with "well it could be inherit.....oh yeah" The sentence just ended. She remembered that it could not be inherited. Then a bit of silence.

Part of me thinks it is great, like evidence that my mom (grandma to DS) loves DS as much as she would a biograndson. That adoption is a non-issue to her. The other part of me thinks its weird.

Then not even an hour later we were talking about how big for his age DS is, and she says "he gets that from DH". I didn't even answer.

So, has anyone else's family 'forgotten' DS or DD was adopted? What do you say to them?