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We don’t have our kids (yet [foster adopt]) but we’ve talked about taking future siblings if they are in need of a home and we would certainly do it if we could. I’d hate to see siblings split up.
That said, I DO believe that someone can change their ways and raise a child in a healthy, functional home even after they’ve had a child removed (TPR) in the past. While I know that some people are/will be habitual offenders and will never be suitable parents, sometimes it takes the TPR to make them see the light and clean up their act. I have a very good friend who lost her first two children to foster care then later adoption. She now has two girls in high school who are thriving – you would never guess that she used to have troubles. She learned her lesson the hard way and she pays the price for that, knowing that she messed up years before.
I would much rather hear that the mom of my adopted children finally cleaned up her act and was able to care for new children. Sadly, I know that my friend is the exception, not the rule …
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