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I guess the upside is that if you do adopt the sib, too, you'll only have a 3 year wait before you can start fostering again. You have a 15 yr old and three 14 year olds, right? They are so close to adulthood. I don't know about your state, but my county says no more than 8 kids under the age of 18 in the home. So if they are adults, they no longer count as kids.

Waiting can be hard. But what would your baby want when she is older? Maybe this 2 year old will turn out to be perfect for your family. And having grown up together maybe that sibling will someday be the one who is always "there" for their more fragile sibling throughout their lives. You can say 'let another family adopt them and we'll stay in close contact' but that other family may decide to move to another state and you just won't be able to stay as close.

Clearly you can see where my heart would be in this issue, but I do totally understand how shocked and frustrated you must be to have this kind of emotional blackmail sprung on you at the 11th hour. Good luck with your decision.

Jess