[Robbin]

Your heart is sooo in the right place. I do agree with some of the other posters, though. You have to be careful because sometimes the bios may "use" you or it may turn around to bite you in the butt.

I would suggest sending regular letters about the kids with enclosures of some of their art work and cut out of articles about child rearing, budgeting, etc., and cards of encouragement.

I don't know, what is the age of the biomom? How many children does she have and what are their ages and were there previous placements?

If she is a young mom who had a traumatic childhood herself, she may very well need a mentor and roll model to become a successful adult and if you can be that person for her. Remember, though, if she is in rehab, she has a long history of manipulating situations and people to get her needs and wants fulfilled. She is probably MUCH more street wise than you are and you need to aware of that.

SO, cover your butt and be sure you that you say - during your very next conversation with her - that you want to help her in every way that you can to successfully reunite with her kids, but she has to understand that you are absolutely OBLIGATED to report any troubling behavior you observe or conversations that you two have to the caseworker. If she does not want the caseworker to know, she should not tell you. Urge her to tell the cw herself. You do not want to get caught up in a moral dilemma of "...don't tell the caseworker, but....". Your first obligation is to the safety and well-being of the children. A successful reunification will be based on the cw knowing ALL the facts.

Good Luck to you, and her, and the kids!