[thanksgivingmom]

I think it's awesome that you're keeping up contact for your son. There DEFINITELY could be something going on due to the sisters pregnancy. Since I've placed (only a year and a half ago!) I've had two nephews and a neice born with another on the way - it's hard every time. (And yes, I come from a huge family).

I would say to give it some time and to try again in a while. I'm not sure how much time but I would sit back for a while and then still try again.

I think that yes, your son might realize that you are the one making contact but that he will appreciate your efforts. You can't change his birthmoms behavior, you can only control yours. Either way he will know if she's not contacting him, I don't necessarily think it will hurt less if you continue to contact her.

I know that it's hard to be the one to initiate all the time. There are many people on here (both amoms AND bmoms) who are the ones that need to initiate all the time. But that's when we have to lean on each other for support and remind ourselves that we don't do it for us. We do it for the kids.

Best of luck to you!