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In addition to what everyone else has said, I would say to not talk to her while she is throwing a fit. The more you talk, or try to get her to stop,the more attention you are giving her.
Start everyday off by explaing to her that there are going to be changes. Let her know that when she throws a fit two things will happen. One, she will lose her prized possession and two, she will sit in tiimeout for 3 minutes. Explain to her the consequences clearly if she throws a fit. If her prized possession is a doll, then tell her the doll is gone for the rest of the day. Let her know that from this day on, throwing a fit won't get her anything. If she breaks the rules, then it's into the chair for 3 minutes with no sounds at all. Time starts when she gets quiet. When you put her in timeout the first time, tell her why she is there in as few words as possible. Next time say nothing.
She will continue to throw a fit it, but you have to follow through with everything you told her. I warn you that you might have to take her to the chair 100 times and it might go on for hours, but you can't give in. If you do, she is learning that she is in control. If you think it is hard now, what will she be like when she's 6, 12 or 15? You have to stop this behavior now. You are the adult, older and stronger than a 3 yr old.
You can do it. As Kim says, stay cool headed, calm and just do it.
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