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Sounds like in her perspective:
1) I scream, kick, fight, throwup, etc...
2) I then get what I want!
So unless you are stern and ignore the behaviour then it will only get worse. Our niece did something similar to this when she came here last year. SHe would scream, cry, throw things, bang things, etc....but I would tell her to go to her room (and if she didn't I would place her there and shut the door)....and I would allow her to calm down...while telling her "Once you are calm you can come out and talk about it" I also let her know her behaviour would not get her anything. The trick is to not let it look like it bothers you...stay calm and ignore it...even if you have to isolate her where she can't hurt herself. It took about 6 months of doing that and it was like twice a week for her in the beginning, then down to once a month and she hasn't done it in the past 4 or so months.
Don't give her what she wants and she won't continue the behaviour. It will take alot of time...she obviously learned it from someone. So, be patient and do the same thing everytime.
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