The whole issue for me is the formality of it. I would not sign a legally enforceable agreement to see my best friend every 4 weeks. Does that mean that I plan on cutting ties with her down the road? No way! It just means that life happens and there may be times that we see each other two weekends in a row and then not again for 5 weeks. I think one of the goals of a healthy, open adoption is for the relationship to be as natural as possible and by signing something, it would be getting off on the wrong foot.
Again, this is just my opinion and if someone said they wouldn't place their baby with me unless I signed something, I don't think I would be the right choice for them. Luckily we have a very comfortable and natural relationship with DD's bparents and they just call when they want to visit and we set something up. Just like with any other family members or friends. It works for all of us!
