No answers here, but I'm listening intently for "the answer". I want so badly to avoid hurting the feelings and/or damaging the attachment of our 2 1/2 yo daughter that I snuggle with her and/or hold her hand until she's completely asleep - and yep, sometimes that's a job that takes over an hour. I love the time with her, but it seriously affects my ability to help around the house getting things picked up for the next morning/etc. And I can't be doing this when she's 25, so we've gotta get past this ourselves
