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I'll tell you.....I think adoptive parents DO have SOME Rights......but they really need to do their homework before they select an agency, in order to know what they can/can't do. ---Linny
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Whoa! I didn't speak specifically to the rights of individual states. I merely said that adoptive parents DO have SOME rights...and I still stand by my statement that they do. Yes, there are some states/instances that would seem adoptive parents have their hands tied....(which is exactly why adoptive parents should do some homework to know which states are better than others for various reasons, etc.)
But, if you're speaking specifically to 'after signing of the papers relinquishing rights' and before finalization?
The agency (if you're using one) has the jurisdiction over the child until finalization takes place.
And, as far as all paps 'doing their homework'....believe me, many don't. Gads, dh and I knew very little about domestic adoptions when we first started with domestic adoption, which is why I'm pretty vocal about matching and paying tons of monies up front. I don't think anyone should have to be 'out' a ton of money before they even get a child/baby.
And, as far as the BBB......I"ve read here, and on other sites as well, complaining to the BBB has limited effect on any agency. To me....by far the best way to know about an agency, is to check with other adoptive parents here, and on other sites as well.
Finally, I would agree with blessedbybug in that the couple chose to enter into the situation with money up front. I hate that they've lost the money they have, I really do and I empathize with them. (I've had friends who've lost over 5k submitting $$ to an agency, just to get started---and I'm NOT talking about doing their homestudy either.)
But, when they agreed to pay the monies-- knowing it was a 'matched' situation--they went into it with eyes opened, it seems to me. Again, I"m sorry they lost the $$ they did. I see this all too often with adoptions and I think it's awful; but I honestly don't see any recourse in this case.
Sincerely,
Linny