I found my playgroup through
Real groups make a real difference - Meetup.com. I love it! There are 25 families in it, so a lot of diversity and different family situations. There are at least 2 families with twins, a foster family, and a few families with adopted kiddos. I love it so much I can't describe! There are at least 3 activites a week to choose from. Usually 2 of the activites are playdates at people's homes, and then one is an outing, like the park or beach.
There is some talk at meetups about pregnancy, labor, etc. But I have found that once people know your kiddos are adopted, they want to talk about that also! Just because you can't contribute to a conversation about pregnancy and birth doesn't mean you shouldn't go to a playgroup! We talk a lot more about raising our kids and all that goes with it.
I am going to throw this out there, and will probably get jumped on for it. As mamas who have adopted, we can sometimes be so sensitive when people talk about all that goes with pregnancy and giving birth. I know it is hard to not be able to discuss it ourselves, because I was there. But to be honest, adoption is not the norm, and most women you come into contact with as a SAHM will have given birth as a way of making their family. If we shy away from places just because we are not like everyone else, we will build ourselves a lonely world. When moms are discussing giving birth, pipe in with your adoption story! It is not something to hide, and I, for one, relish questions. If I am asked why we adopted, I tell people my doc said surgery or adoption. If I am asked about the cost, I tell people it was a lot! I don't think my friends at playgroup are asking just to be nosy. They like me, and want to know about my life. Maybe I just have a fantastic playgroup, but I have never had anyone say anything negative about adoption.
OK, I don't know how much of this makes sense. It is early and the coffee is still in the cup.