[thanksgivingmom]

I have to agree with Karen when she says that the aparents handled this poorly. They needed to contact you first so you weren't blindsided by this. (Even if it was a *good* blindsided!) Hopefully you can talk this through with them so you're not put in an awkward position again.

I do think this is a great opportunity to expand the openness especially as it's on your daughters terms and it would appear that she's part of that decision making process. Very cool, and yes, very sweet.

I'm in an open adoption with my daughter and YES it's hard. Some think that visits should be all joy and rainbows for firstparents - we're getting to see out kids after all! But like Belle said, it's HARD too. There are a lot of emotions to deal with and work through before and after a visit. But also like Belle, I do it for my daughter to establish the relationship with her (she's nearly 20 months) so that she'll always remember me as a part of her life.

Best of luck to you!