They owe you, Brandy, for the blessing of having a daughter. Your life was disrupted, you could not be raised by birthparents, you suffered a loss.
Your adoptive parents gained, gained, gained from that situation. They had the opportunity to have a daughter--there aren't words to describe how special and precious that is--I think any foster parent wanting to adopt their foster daughter would agree.
You are handling this beautifully. You are correct in your priority--your family, your children.
My father died at home while in hospice care-I was living in Hawaii--everyone was OK with what I could do long distance, even my mother. You are not being unreasonable.
