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I can someone relate, because my adoptive father is going through the same thing with his dad. My grandfather was abusive towards my father in his childhood, never had much of a relationship with him in his adulthood and had a distant at best relationship with me when I was a child.
Now he is in a nursing home, he remarried shortly after my grandmother died in 1993 and his new wife said because my dad is the oldest child it is his responsibility to care for him. Although she is still married to him, she has put it upon my father to make all decisions and be responsible for dealing with any problems that arise at the nursing home.
My dad has really struggled with this because although they live within 45 minutes of the nursing home, he has never really had any type of relationship with his father and what he did have was not very "nice". He does it only out of a sense of obligation.
Have you told your family you won't be doing it?
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Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives.
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Last edited by stinky_kitty : 07-10-2008 at 02:40 PM.
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