I'm sending my hugs too!
I just disrupted my placement a few days ago. I couldn't imagine going through what you are going through through, having your children in such a position. Don't feel guilty about doing what you need to do to protect your family. I was feeling hoorrible when I made the call and told them I was not taking my fd back into my home. The next day I spoke to two of the CW and they told me not to worry about it. They told me I had put up with more than anyone else had. They made me feel like they had been expecting my call. I wish you could be getting that kind of support instead of the 30 day notice response.
I don't understand why you are required to give a 30 day notice. Your children should not have to endure such abuse at the hands of other children. You would think the agency would have them moved asap. I would think there would be huge liability issues for them in this situation. They are aware your children are being abused yet the same agency put in place to make sure children are safe is turning a blind eye. If it were your children doing this to the foster children they would be moved asap.
I hope you can have them moved from your home quickly. I know it sounds harsh but if they are not taking the move seriously I would go drop them off at the agency. You have to keep your kids safe. 30 days of this type of behavior (I'm sure only to get worse) is going to cause some lasting effects on your own children.
Sending more hugs and prayers!!!