[kakuehl]

One of the qualities I have always loved about my parents was their ability to let me make my own decisions and to still be there for me. Of course, I've always felt guilty when I feel like I've let them down.

Gabby, have you suggested that your mom come on line and research the positives and negatives of the various decisions that can be made. (adoption, "guardianship", etc) It might help if she heard the stories of some of us.

My mother supported my decision although I know she was terribly hurt that her first grandchild was placed for adoption. I wish she had lived to to meet him.

No matter what you decide, someone it going to disagree. It is your challenge to decide what is the best thing you can do for your child and for yourself. You will live this decision the rest of your life so it needs to be the best decision you can make right now. Trust yourself. (You will also second guess yourself! Don't be surprised when that happens!)

If your mom is seeing a lawyer, you might want to see one too. I honestly don't know the legal ramifications if you are not 18. Are you considering an open adoption?

BTW, it took my mom a long time to realize I truly did love my son. I have always felt I made the right decision in placing him; that doesn't mean it has ever been easy. In the same circumstances today, I believe I would make the same decision.

Know that we will support you regardless of your final decision. None of us can make the decision for you. We can pray that you make the best decision for you and your child.