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Originally Posted by BethanyB
First of all, I dont remember saying that you could not have an opinion here in this conversation. But your opinion is no better than anyone else in this thread.
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Truly I don't want to get into a you said/I said conversation as I wasn't directing my comment to you but to the whole thread. I could have sworn that this is a foster parent support board and the way this foster parent and the OP were being discussed was quite negative. You are right, we don't have the "power" to make the placement decisions but that doesn't mean that we as foster parents aren't living in the same town, seeing the bfamily, acquainted with mutual friends/family, etc. and have much more knowledge than the sw or the judge does. . . or maybe not more knowledge but different information.
Either way, I don't know the particulars of this case or whether the grandmother is truly capable but I was commenting on the lack of support for the OP (and the fp friend that she was talking about) that some posters have displayed and I have seen this happen in other threads as well. In juxtaposition I just read a wonderful thread where the OP asked about adopting at an older age and the support that was given almost brought tears to my eyes. Just because you have a negative opinion about something doesn't mean you should necessarily share it especially if it is not going to advance the conversation.