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Tinatyme: There is a STRONG bias in this group toward blood relatives over "unrelated strangers". There are many good people here and they have a lot of excellent information and good advice, but you do need to be aware that "blood is better than anything" and "open adoption is the best option".
To the person who said "a judge wouldn't give a baby to a person who wasn't able to take care of it.."
My daughter's friend gave birth to a child while in prison (where she will be for three more years and so will the biofather). Her parents could not take the baby, because they are raising her sister's child (sister already in prison too). His sisters have children of their own (3 each) and could not take the baby. His mother was given the baby. She is 60, weighs about 400 pounds, walks with 2 canes, cannot drive - in fact, cannot even get up and down the steps of her trailer without help. But she was a "blood relative". The baby's father is very afraid - if there were a fire, she could not get out or get the baby out and if she fell it could be a day or two before someone came by -- but his request that the baby be placed in a foster home was ignored.
The grandmother is living on disability and will now get SS for the baby but she didn't do it for the money. She truly loves her grandson - and she should NOT (IMHO) be raising him.
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