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Yes, we are foster parents and yes it is drilled into our head that the children are not ours and yes we are supposed to whole heartedly, without complaint, and (apparently opinion) support reunification but I do have feelings and a mind and I can evaluate whether a biofamily member has the resources and skills to raise the child that I have been raising.
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First of all, I dont remember saying that you could not have an opinion here in this conversation. But your opinion is no better than anyone else in this thread.
We do have to support reunification and we dont have the power to evaluate whether a bio family member is suitable to raise a child or not. Especially since we are not the ones interviewing the bio family. We are not the ones going into their homes to inspect. We are not the ones who are in the position of power to say who is acceptable in our minds or not. Dont you think that would be inappropriate? You think the foster family should be able to make the decision about where the child goes, when the foster family loves that child and wants to adopt that child? You dont think that would be a biased decision? All we know is what we hear from others. That includes the SWs and the foster parents themselves.
How does the foster parent or the OP know that the grandmother cant read the prescription label? Do they live with her? I know how hard it can to be to think youre going to lose a child to their bio family but we know this going in. WE know we have no decision on when or who the child will go to.
I can understand grief and sadness about losing a foster child, but I cant understand judging a woman who no one here even knows because she wants to raise the grandchild she loves. The grandmother has been called selfish and incapable, she was even referred to as a bad mother because her grown children have problems. ANd none of us even know her. I do have a problem with that and that is my opinion.