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Originally Posted by Hadley2
"It's just not possible for a 70 yr. old to raise a newborn adequately."
Kelley, I have to take exception. Such posts are just way too absolute and condescending both to other posters and all women 70+ everywhere for me. There was absolutely nothing patronizing or insulting to anyone in Notamomyet's post; quite the contrary, she took a gentle, generous tone in framing the situation in a different, more positive light. I think the judge you quoted, on the other hand, was, however, deeply, cruelly, and unnecessarily patronizing and insulting if he framed his comments in the way you report. In that situation, if it was not a safe placement, I think that could have been said in a far more respectful and appropriate way. No one should ever be shamed or publicly humiliated for trying to do the right thing by a child. I am surprised that a foster parent would approve of such unwarranted meanness..
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Last time I checked, I was entitled to my own opinion. Yes, 70+ is much too old to raise a newborn. I know there are plenty of 70+ yr. olds in wonderful shape, and I'm sure they are wonderful babysitters, but to raise a child full time would not be in the best interest of either the child or the adult. I'm am not trying to be cruel or condesending, just realistic.
As far as what the judge said, he was not cruel to this woman at all, he was just right to the point. Please don't assume you know the tone and demeanor at which he spoke because you were not there.
I'm also assuming by your comment about a foster parent approving of such meanness, you are talking about me. First of all, he was not mean (again, you were not there) and secondly, where in my post did I say I agreed with what he said? Oh yea, no where! Maybe you should read the posts more throughly before you start passing judgement.
I also don't understand how in the world you know anything about GRG42's acquaintance's grandchildren to say "wow that's a stretch" about their potential for success in any particular career! Frankly, I think it is a "stretch" to presume so absolutely that you do.[/quote]
That's not what I was referring to when I said that. I just meant that every child has the potential to be a Dr. or a nurse. No matter what the background. I don't think we should "fairytale up" a potentially damaging situation.