[Traceybch]

Janelle,

I agree with most who have posted here. I think that even if you are considering the CIO method, you shouldn't do it until you KNOW the he is fully attached to you. Right now, he just needs to know that you are there whenever he needs you to be.

I am hoping that the book that I sent you will help some with this issue.

When we brought our Son home (at 7 months) he had a really difficult time with sleep and we were just so exhausted!!! However, we hung in there and held him 8 times a night if we needed to. Once we knew he was attached to us and knew we were coming back, we began to let him fuss more and eventually he slept through the night. I would say this took 3 months or so.

We just brought our Daughter home (at 21 months) almost 4 months age. Every night one of us would stay in her room until she fell asleep. She would always wake up around 1am and scream for us and from then on it would be every hour! We started to take turns sleeping on an air mattress on her floor. That way, when she woke up she would look and see us there and go back to sleep. After three months home we knew it was time to break that habit as she had adjusted wonderfully and was attached to us. Now, if she wakes up and can't go back to sleep on her own, she comes in our room and lays on a comforter on the floor and sleeps the rest of the night no problem.

I guess what I am trying to say is that until you know he is POSITIVELY attached, do what you have to do to make him feel secure. I think this will be the thing in the long run that really matters.

In the meantime.......I feel your pain!!

Tracey