[vernellinnj]

My foster child has been with me over 2 years but the case goal has not yet changed to adoption. I sometimes wonder how we will handle things when there are no longer regular supervised visits with biomom. To prepare, I tell the child that me and biomom love him/her very much and that a nice man called a judge will decide where he/she should live. I've never actually mentioned adoption because it's not appropriate to do so, yet.

I agree that we should take our cues from our children...let them guide. Good luck to you and your (expanding) family!