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The parents of my children were arrested more than 3 yrs after the last incident. I was so nervous for months and am still struggling some days to calm my stomach down. We took them for a forensic interview and they were able to use the information of a previous physical exam. Their other abusers were reported many times and nothing was done until this report was made. It has been almost 5 yrs since they abused the kids. I really didn't think anything would ever happen, I am so glad we pursued it b/c they are looking at a Life sentence.
We encouraged our children "to tell the truth, be honest". Never tell them to tell the story about when mom abused them. Sounds silly but you do not want to be accused of tainting the evidence. We were careful not to talk too much about it and only when they brought it up. Do not ask specific questions like, "Where did your mother put the spoon?" but more like, "What do you remember?" or "Is there anything else you want to tell me?". Write it down, every time he talks to you and what was said. Have him tell his therapist with you present. We noticed when multiple people reported an incident, it was responded to with more force.
We are in the middle of a nasty case right now so if you need support, feel free to PM me. I know it is hard to put on a brave face when you want to cry.
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