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Originally Posted by NotAMomYet
Isn’t it wonderful that a 70-year-old woman wants to keep her family in her family? For a child to grow up knowing that they were loved by their grandma must be a wonderful thing. Surly, none of us have a real window into the life of this woman. Maybe she has friends or community members who’ve stepped up to help; maybe she’s sourced local organization to help with transportation, shopping, and bathing the child; .
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Wow, that's a pretty patronizing post and somewhat insulting to the origional poster. Not to mention the fact that you're practically saying she's lying. I'm pretty sure the fm has a pretty good window on what this situation is like. My first 2 fs's were in a very similar situation. Their grandmother, who was 70 was trying to adopt them. She too was in pretty decent health but did need help with the boys to raise them appropriately. Her plan was to get help from other family members as well as members of her community. She had list of people who volunteered their time to help her out, like take the boys on weekends to give her a break, pick them up from daycare, ect. I was at court when the judge heard the case and his exact words were "children are not animals, they cannot be farmed out to many different people. They need the structure of one secure home with one (or two, if married) main primary caretaker. If the grandmother is not capable of taking care of them without outside help, then it is certainly not in the best interest of the children to be raised as "shared property". He also looked the grandmother and told her "if you really love your grandchildren, you would want them to have a mommy and a daddy that will be there for them for a very long time."
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There is a woman down the road from me who just celebrated her 85th birthday. She is raising three grandchildren ages 11-16 and has had them from the time each was born. She seems so very, very frail and relies on the community to help (not as much now that the oldest kid drives and they are all old enough to pitch in)..[/quote]
That is very sad. That woman is only looking at her best interest, not her grandchildren's. Those poor kids will have to grow up way too fast to take care of not only themselves, but thier grandmother as well.
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