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The only real "flak" I catch is from my OWN mom. In fact, just this weekend, she said, "Oh, it's so hard to be a working mom. It stinks for the mom. It stinks for the kid." Thanks, MOM, for your support!!!!
There was a recent thread on GAP board about this. A woman had a great post which essentially was it is horrible for moms to judge each other (based on the SAHM/working thing alone).
I went back to work when DD was three months old and my "daycare" providers were my SIL and MIL. They were both wonderful. DD started preschool/extended day three days a week when she was almost three and I almost wish I had started her sooner. She is a very social, active kid and is totally THRIVING there. I scratched and clawed to get a four day work week and I enjoy having that extra day with her. You will find a way to make it work for YOUR family.
I think, btw, Jo was just saying that in her own experience, having experienced different things, it is harder to be a SAHM with her kids. I can tell you when Tuesday rolls around and I have to go back to work, I am somewhat relieved b/c my one kid runs me ragged...I can't imagine having four!!
We are at the point where DH could probably stay home and we could survive....I feel weird about that, though....not the SAHD thing, but I just wonder if I would feel "jealous" that it wasn't me. He has such a flexible job that I don't think it's necessary (and DD is thriving anyway), but I think about it sometimes....
Finally, the other thing to think about is what kind of career you have. I am a lawyer, and to be frank, it isn't easy just to be a SAHM and then "pop" back in to the field, you know? And I enjoy my work (most days) so I don't know that I would ever want to start from scratch again.
Anyway, good luck figuring it all out!
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