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I think if you really feel that your children are at risk of being injured or in any way harmed (more than what normal siblings will do to each other occasionally) then I think you should have the boys moved.
If you think the behaviors are within a "normal" range of kidhood then I think you need to immediately tighten up on that little guy and have a rule with him that he must be within line of sight at all times, that he is not allowed to play with the other children unsupervised until he earns it. I would tell him exactly what you are doing and why - in a kid friendly way - like I know you get angry and you don't control your hands so you have to stay with me - etc. I'd clearly lay down the rules with everyone in the house. NOBODY HITS EVER! I'd also consider alarms on doors or other ways to monitor him at night and other times of the day too. He is likely an angry, scared little boy who was conditioned to lash out - he saw it, it was done to him, etc. So, he is going to exhibit those behaviors but that doesn't mean you can excuse it. I'd give him some other activities to do when he feels angry or like he wants to hit - like jump up and down, or something else that is less distructive.
Are the kids getting any therapy? I'd probably advocate for that as well and try to find out more about his past and relationships with the adults in his life.
just some ideas but if you do think the other children are at risk then I think your forced to ask them to be moved.
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