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Hi.
Everyone here makes excellent points - most especially RobinKay. She is absolutely 100% correct about c-sections and the drugs that course through your body afterwards. Not only that but the physical stress the body goes through from surgery. Just dealing with that is enough.
I know this is so terribly hard, but try to take a moment for yourself, just breath and try not to hound yourself to make an "on the spot" decision. It is okay if you're confused, frightened, grieving. All of that is natural.
Even just the birthing process can bring on those feelings.
These kinds of decisions are never snap decisions and there's always doubt. That's all right too. This is big stuff kiddo! Don't beat yourself up for not knowing the answer right in this moment. I would love to say anyone made this decision without so much as a "blip" appearing on their radar but I doubt it.
No scratch that actually. I don't think I'd EVER want to meet the person who could make a life decision like this and then go on with the day like they'd just made a decision between having latte or a frapacinno. You know what I mean?
The fact that you are weighing this all out shows you are compassionate and trying your best to do what is right.
I wanted to say something...hope I don't get shredded here!
You know there is a person in here who's had the same sort of situation (well kind of). She had support from her family and opted to surrender her son because she felt it would be best for him. Sometimes I think for people such as yourselves, for people with support, it's just got to be harder to opt for adoption.
Someone like me, a teenaged girl who would've been homeless and my babies too? Well....the way was more clear-cut for me. In a way, the decision was easier. My back was against a wall and I knew it.
May God Bless you my friend. No matter what the outcome is, you are a brave woman.
Janey
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