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It's a hard call, but the needs of your current children need to take priority over the needs of your foster children. It's also not going to help your foster boys if you get overwhelmed & can't provide the care they need. That being said, it may be worth holding out a few more weeks to see if things improve. However, you probably need to instigate LOSS (line of sight supervision) at all times, and that can be exhausting. If that's not effective, you may need to enforce the three foot rule, or even the good old "holding the belt loop" approach until he can be safe with himself and others. All loving and supportive, of course, not punitive--"I care about you & know it is hard for you when you feel angry inside, I want to stay close to you so I can help you with those feelings".
It's not his "fault" that he had experiences that led to these behaviors, but he does have to take responsibility for his actions. And teaching him to do so at five is going to, hopefully, be easier than teaching him at fifteen. If you don't have the resources to help him learn self control (and there is nothing wrong with admitting that!) it's best for him to move on to another placement that has more resources.
Just my .02, from someone who has never BTDT! So take it for what it's worth.
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