[mama-2-3]

These boys are very cute and seem normal in many ways, but they have obviously experienced violence in the past. They were pretty good for the first couple of days, but now that they are coming out of their shell a little bit, so are their problems. Ordinarily I can handle these types of behaviors (like in the classroom for example), but in my home when my kids are the ones getting yelled at and hit I am not sure I can handle it. When my 3 year old got punched in the face today by the 4 (almost 5) year old, I about lost it. It is hard not to take these behaviors personally when it is my sweet and precious little ones getting pushed around. The 3 year old foster boy seems somewhat manageable. He responds well to positive reinforcement and seems genuinely remorseful after hurting someone, but the older brother seems very manipulative and cruel. The logical part of me knows that it is not his fault, of course, but he can't stay here if this is how my kids are going to get treated.
I have never interrupted a placement before, but part of me is thinking that interupting now while they have only been here for a short time may be less traumatic for them. BUT... the other part of me knows that ALL children have potential and maybe I should just stick it out. They just got here last week, maybe the older one will see the light and start behaving. UGH... but what if he doesn't. It breaks my heart to think that I am putting my own family (especially my two little ones) at risk for trauma (both physical and emotional). What should I do?
Here I was so excited to finally get some boys in this house and now I am really contemplating interrupting.
Any advice would be appreciated.