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Old 07-06-2008, 10:35 AM
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Oneangie,
Your post carries a lot of personal pain. In my opinion, before you contemplate going back into reunion - maybe you can get some counseling. A reunion is not going to "fill" the places you need filled.

That being said, you were very young 7 years ago and your bmom obviously wanted to get to know you then. You know what she is like, you ought to be able to make a judgement - is this a person I want in my life? I don't think curiosity is a good enough reason to try to contact again. But, if you want her as a part in your life and you want to be a part of hers, then that is a very good reason to try again. In my opinion, it is cruel to go in and out of a persons life totally. That doesn't mean you have to be best friends/mother - daughter/soul-mates/ etc, but if you decide to try again you need to be able to commit, good or bad, to the long run of contact at least.

Good luck and I wish you peace in your future.
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