[SamIAm2]

Love, under the circumstances, I also have a hard time believing that her oldest DD is crying all the time over someone who isn't a bigger part of her everyday life. Perhaps if she really is crying that often then there is another explanation for it? Although I understand Bmom's sadness after the visit, I also find her email to be a bit manipulative. Perhaps you could use this as a gateway to open conversation about her telling her DD's who your DD is to them...especially since, according to her, they are becoming emotional over the visits and are probably beginning to figure things out.

Sorry I don't have better answers. I know it's rough. Maybe just think on it for a few days before responding to her.

Edited to add that I LOVE CJ's response too! It's perfect!!