[Cjmeck]

Really, I don't think you have to "do" anything with that information. I would just say "I'm really sorry the last visit was so hard on you guys. I know it must be a little confusing to your kids. I'm sure you'll figure out a way to help them through it". End of story. Of course its natural to be concerned, sympathetic, ect... but I would try not to read too much into it. Maybe she was just venting and you're the only person she vents to about adoption related stuff. And maybe you're right and she does have another motive. But you're right, getting testy with her surely won't help. That sounds like a tough situation. Hang in there!