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But is it better for the child to be raised by a "blood relative" who only wants the child for the social security check or for two strangers who let their lives be poked and prodded and snooped into by caseworkers and law enforcement, who spent thousands of dollars on agencies, lawyers, homestudies, etc. because they wanted to provide a loving home for a child/children?
Any time anyone comes on this board and mentions that they are thinking about placing a child in an adoptive home someone is going to say:
Adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. and Your child will wonder why no one in his/her biofamily wanted him/her.
To my old-fashioned way of thinking a child is NOT a temporary problem, it is a life-time commitment.
I have also known many birthfamilies who wanted to keep babies in the family for reasons other than love -- for financial incentives, to "punish" the birthmother with a constant reminder of her "sin", to prove their Christian "forgiveness" of their wayward daughter, or because grandmother can no longer have children and wants to use daughter as a surrogate. I won't even go into biofathers who don't want to parent but refuse to sign adoption papers because they want to punish the girl for breaking up with them. Like children with a ball ---'if you don't play my way I'm taking my ball and going home' -- forgive me, but I think the life of a child is more important that that.
I know what I am saying is not popular, but I hate to see children being treated as possessions to be kept instead of precious blessings to be cared for and cherished.
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