[joskids]

One of our children was 20 mos. old when we met her, the others infants. As for the 20 mo. old, we took it easy, tried not to get too excited in front of her, tried to remain calm. We made her more comfortable by showing our new friendship to her foster family, which made her more relaxed. We took her cues as to what she was ready for. Because she was withdrawn and shy, my husband gave her the doll we brought for her and held it out to her and let her come to us. There were lots more visits before she was moved to our home. At that age, it's so hard to understand. Your new children are also young. Have you read "Toddler Adoption, The Weaver's Craft?" Very good book. Try not to worry too much and just relax and enjoy the meeting. Easier said than done, huh? Best wishes! What an exciting time for you! Our daughter is 9 now, by the way, and so outgoing and friendly. She's come a long way from that shy, withdrawn, uneasy toddler and blossomed into a tall and beautiful young girl. Watching her grow has been a real joy.

Josie