[Amaurosis]

You might not really be interested in my take on this, since I'm not any kind of mom (yet) and I'm not an adoptee, but...

I have a lot of friends with kids under 2. I love them all dearly, but they are all the flakiest people right now. They only call me back about 50% of the time, often days and days later. Having small children can be so overwhelming, and other relationships/obligations can kind of go out the window.

This is not to say that the aparents shouldn't be a whole lot more diligent about keeping in touch, helping the relationship with the bfamily grow, and certainly fulfilling any promises that they made. It just seems to me that parenting a small child sort of shorts out your brain, and failures of communication like this shouldn't necessarily be taken as either an indictment of or antipathy towards the bmom, nor as an indication that the aparents intend to close the adoption.

Not that any of this helps when you're waiting to hear news about your child, I'm sure.

So glad that your situation improved, kadensmom!

Edited to add that I really should have checked the date on this post!