I think you're right...
ProspectiveSingleMom,
I think you may be right. We spent the weekend with J and see that he is definitely ADHD and also impulsive to say the least. I will say that when we can see him about to make a bad decision and talk to him about it, we have been able to diffuse it..He responds easily to redirection and needs alot of reminders about rules, tasks and choices. As for his medications...I believe that the current regimen works well for him. He has been on it for about a year and does not exhibit some of the behaviors that we read in the paperwork...
Now that he knows us and is more relaxed, he seems less "hyper" and out of control than he did at prior meetings. The main thing we noticed was the negativity and bossyness. That improved over the weekend as we kept talking about relaxing and that its ok to have an opinion or desire, but that we speak in a respectful way to each other. I think though that the negativity in his voice was and is his way of being defensive and taking care of himself. This big, tough 8yr old curled up at night cluching my old teddy bear. He tried to act so big, but is in some ways still a baby...It's gonna be work....but we believe we have found our son...thanks to all whom replied....those who believe...continue to pray....thanks
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