We've been home with our new dauther Ella Grace for 2 weeks now. We have had soooo many visitors it's been just unreal - in a good way! One thing I keep hearing over and over again from visitors is "She's not very dark." They seem to say it like it's a good thing - that lighter skinned is better. I'm never quite sure how to respond so I usually just shrug and say, "Well, it can take a while for AA babies color to come in all the way." and then I point out that her ears are darker than the rest of her face and also the fact that her arms and legs used to be almost white, but are now a lot darker. I also say, "Well, it doesn't matter to us how dark she is." That one seems to make people uncomfortable. Most stammer a bit and say something like, "Of course not, doesn't matter to me!"
Why do people say stupid things like this?
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9/07 - Matched with birthmom through a mutual friend
11/30/07 - Homestudy complete!
2/27/08 - Match failed - birthmom never signed papers
5/5/08 - signed with new agency
5/12/08 - chosen by birtmom!
6/8/08 - it's a girl!
6/17/8 - Home forever with our little girl!
