[redbonec]

Thank you, loveajax, it sounds like we are thinking the same.
I also wonder about our daughter saying something to her birthmother in the presence of her children, to the effect of her being her birthmother, or her growing in her tummy. She wouldn't say that now, but maybe not far into the future.
Do I understand that your daughter does not know her birthmother is her birthmother? Did she want it a secret from her too?