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We have extended birthfamily involved in our visits and such...it's worked great for us.
I think in your case - I would sit down with her and openly discuss your thoughts. Her drug abuse is a fact she has shared with you - you have every right to discuss it further!!
I would talk about how her being clean would be a requirement for contact and I would discuss how any new people wanting to enter would have to sit down with you and have this same discussion - andthen you would need to decide if you were comfortable with it.
We never had to do this - ours just kinda worked out right from the beginning, we've never had boundary/respect issues. In your case, I think you need to lay some groundwork.
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Leigh
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