[RobinKay]

[i]i think it is USUALLY, but not always, in the best interest of the child to be raised by family members. but even when it is best, and it is accomplished, i don't think it will necessarily stop them from asking this question. bc they are still going to want to know why their parents didn't want to raise them, or their sister, or their grandparent, why did it have to be this obscure aunt, or the parent of my half brother? being a relative will not exempt us from these questions.[/

There will always be the questions, that is true. But when I can take my son to see his sisters, when he can visit his bparents, when he can see his cousins and his grandmother and grandfather--that is better than an adoption outside the family. When I can personally explain and answer all the questions because I know all the family members, that is better. My son has a better chance to grow up emotionally healthy.


Again, I am saying that if possible and safe, a child should go home to his/her family. When it's not possible, thank goodness for the foster families.