[RobinKay]

Transporting, visits, schedule disruptions, holiday disruptions, children's emotional issues, etc, etc, etc. However, we do it all for the kids because they deserve more than we could ever possibly give. They did not ask for any of the things that they have been subjected to.


Bio families don't do all that, once they get them back?


"try before you buy" comes directly from my personal situation. Fp said to us they did not intend to adopt, ever, until our lil guy came along. Then they "fell in love" and decided everyone in his birth family was unfit--I base that on what they said to us and how they treated us--they did not support him seeing his bio sister, who was also subjected to the foster system and a minor. They "tried" this child and decided, on their own, to keep him although the plan was ALWAYS reunification, he was never available for adoption.

Seriously, how many foster parents on this site are fostering just to help kids, and how many are looking for children to adopt? Foster parents may not "give the kids back" routinely, but the option is there. The option is also there to not take a placement in the first place when called by social services.


I have agreed over and over--it is unfair and hurtful to lose a child you are raising. I feel I am not being heard when I state that it is the child's right to be with their family whenever possible. I do not say that DNA makes you a better parent, I say being raised by the bio family (when it is possible,) keeps the child from asking "why didn't anyone in my family want me?" as they grow up.