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Originally Posted by LyricallyUnsound
My family really doesn't want me to give the child up for adoption. They want to keep it, and have told me they'd raise it in this tiny little house that we have. I know for a fact that this is not the best thing for him, and not only that, but, at the risk of sounding selfish, it's not the best thing for me either. They've made me feel really guilty. Though technically they've been supportive in the fact that they haven't kicked me out, killed my boyfriend, taken me to all my appointments and so on, they haven't been supportive on the whole giving him up for adoption front. It's been a very big ordeal, a lot of mental stress on me, a lot of fighting, and now my parents and my boyfriend are fighting. *Sigh* My mother especially just won't let it go, and it's brought up every day. So many different fights have occurred that I'm surprised I haven't gone into early labor.
I guess I'd just like some advice on how to deal with this, if at all possible. Or just any support at all. I know that there are people on here who have probably gone through things just as difficult and definitely more difficult. If anyone could advise me as to how to not fall apart, I'd really appreciate it.
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I guess I'm unsure what your parents are saying: will they legally adopt your baby or will they be supporting you while you raise him/her? I was a college senior when I gave birth to my firstborn and my mom offered to care for him until I "got on my feet" - finished college and got a job,etc. It was not the best option for me or D for many reasons. It took my mom a long time to understand that I did love him, and I'm not sure she ever quite forgave me for "giving away"
her flesh and blood.
This is going to be painful not matter what you do. Please get some unbiased counseling. I agree that Brenda is a wonderful resource. Remember that there is no one right answer; you need to find the best answer for you and your situation. 36 years later I still believe I made the best decision for both D and myself. That doesn't mean it has been easy. I think I've cried an ocean of tears over the years (but knowing me, I'd have cried an ocean, for other reasons, if I'd raised him myself, LOL)
This is your decision. I will hold you in my prayers.